LOL! I *know*! I've read some over there and heard from various friends in the scene and while sometimes it does sound so very hot, other times I just want to back away slowly. :-):-) Still, safe, sane and consensual - whatever floats your boat. :-)

I get the feeling that I might still be married had I had any exposure to the scene back then. That's assuming I could have ever gotten him to consider his own subby tendencies... and had I realized my own dom tendencies (which I've only really come to start understanding in recent years - looong after the divorce). I doubt we'd've been a 24/7 thing, but it might have made a huge difference. Ah, well, live and learn. :-)